Wednesday, December 28, 2011

regaining

slowly getting my life back but, I am sure that once you have taken so much time away, it will take awhile to get back to "normal..." whatever normal means, might mean a new type of "normal," I guess...afterall we also aged and things changed while we took that time off...
started regaining, by making up my monthly menus and seriously going to make a huge effort to cook every night...it has been easy to say we will eat antler food, I gave in this way, it was effortless...but I also have gained weight from that endeavor and now will need to put myself on a good diet to lose at least 25 pounds...
a good resolution, perhaps? resolutions are for another post, coming up...
need to regain by taking back control of my house and gardens...I cannot believe how beautiful my gardens used to be...
I will get there...

Sunday, November 27, 2011

one year of my life

I on purpose have not blogged much lately...did not want to get bogged down writing about this past year...
I gave up one year of my life for something that in essence does not matter...that saddens me...
I mistakedly thought i could make a difference and I have recently and bluntly been shown that
that I was wrong, very wrong...
I guess I am depressed...I cannot get past some hurt feelings, and I totally hate feeling like this...
that is one thing I truly wish my mom taught me differenly, how to not hold grudges...one thing I cannot do by myself, and not for lack of trying...since April (the start of the "one year of my life,") I did let a lot go for the good of something, but this one time, I am just having a really hard time and not sure where to go from here...

am going to take one day at a time (I really should be thinking of one hour at a time...)
and see where that gets me...

Monday, July 18, 2011

we are not in Ca, any more

we are in Phoenix for an Elk's convention...yes, in hot hot Phoenix...108 today but, still it was not so unbearable...everywhere you walk by has misters and we are staying in hotel a lot...and it helps that convention center is directly across the street from our hotel...
we went out for dinner tonight tho, to take the new DD out and as we were walking to a nearby
reataurant, we saw a huge dust storm approaching...once in the restaurant, it turned dark and the wind blew really bad but still very hot out...really weird weather...the restaurant was nice the food reasonable which is nice cause there are not too many places to eat around here at all...

all in all not a bad experience so far...liked going to the convention center where you could buy pins and visit the booths set up by each state...went back again today while Ross was asleep...

Sunday, July 10, 2011

Ross

I did not want the last post to be maybe as discouraging as it might sound...and I wanted to make sure that I stress that Ross is good to me on many levels...he makes sure I have money for
whatever I want and in that way I do have the best of everything...I have the latest sewing machine, the best embroidery machine, & I have a really nice house, etc. he gets me what I want and what he thinks I need...I have tried telling him, begging him, and crying to him that what I really want is for him to help me a little around the house, to spend a little time with me and just to listen to me, even if he thinks it is not noteworthy...and then he does try and do things like I would like but it does not continue very long before we are back into the usual...
I guess after 37 years of marriage, I should realize that nothing is going to change...
but does that make it OK??? maybe OK is not the words for it...do I just do what I do and keep my mouth shut???
the purpose of this post was to ask myself if it is worth everything to move with him to Whidbey and leave ALL I have known and loved behind??? and I guess that is the answer I have to find out myself...will it be lonely in Whidbey??? cause ever since I have known him,even when we were in our 20's he has always taken a nap, always...so that will never change...and I tell myself he must need it so, I usually don't say anything about naps but unless I have something (& usually it has to be quiet) to do, it does get very lonely, and here at least I have kids and grandkids to talk to...if things were to continue in Whidbey like they are here, it WILL definitely be lonely and a lot more lonely than I ever thought here...
he is good to me, maybe just not how I want...
we have so grown apart that sometimes I look at him and actually see someone that I don't know...and it is sad...would I feel really horrible if something happened??? of course I would and that part of me wants to make everything all right and that part says, "go to Whidbey, maybe it is your last part of your life to make it all OK..." and what if that was my last chance to rediscover him as he used to be (me too for that matter?) I know we cannot continue this way as we have no quality of life, per se...would we up there??? we have no personal life, it has been taken away by many many things...this antler thing I knew was going to be hard but had no idea of how HARD it actually would be...it is a constant roller coaster...high ups and very low downs...most times you can never do anything right...but, the good times are...well...good and I have some really good times...the kids and grandkids, well...sometimes I desperately need a vacation from them, cause I deal with their daily drama and the older I get the less patience I have for longer periods with little kids even tho I love them dearly...but, a vacation is one thing and moving so far away from them is quite another...I love being involved in the girl's schools, and making them clothes and seeing them giggle together...why does this have to be so hard???

I just do not know what to do...

the seekers

there is a song that I like to look up on Playlist.com and listen to and tho, you don't really know why the lyrics were formed in the first place, it kinda relates to me right now...
I have a problem that I need to work out for myself and I find myself listening to this song and even tho it does not help my problem, I kinda like it...maybe it at least makes me think.........

it is called A World of our Own, by the Seekers (ya I know it is old) but it talks of moving away to a world of our own, leaving all your sorrows behind, etc...

when our year of antlers is over Ross has been talking for a couple of years now, of moving to Whidbey Island in Washington, and who in their right mind would not want to move there??? while Riverside has been baking in the high 90's, I have kept track of Whidbey and the high there all week
(the high people) has been in the 50's...OMGosh what I would not do right this minute to sit alongside the Puget Sound in a jacket watching the water...we have been there many times and we love it there...absolutely adore it there...everything about it, we love...

the problem, then you ask??? you are asking, then why aren't you all packed and ready to leave the second his committment is over??? well, there are a couple of problems...

#1 and the very most important, can I leave these grandkids of mine??? I simply adore them and could I do without seeing them for months at a time??? this one is weighing very heavily on my mind...sometimes they absolutely drive me crazy but..............................................what would I do without them??? sometimes, they (but, Zoe especially are all the company I have...)

#2 with all of the years of antler involvement, he and I have sort of grown apart...could we have a life up there all by ourselves??? could we repair the damage that has been done to our relationship??? and I am not totally blaming antlers either... we have not had a terrific relationship for many years now...as soon as we got married, we had one baby then 3 and my kids were always (and I mean always sick) and it took a lot away from him and me...he worked a lot and at first I stayed home to raise sick kids and at the time, we (maybe I) made it work...I was totally there 100% for my kids...I let the kids take over my personal space and basically gave up my life for my husband and my kids and never once did I question, I did what was expected of me...I kept a perfect house, perfect yards, great dinners, you name it, I did it...the kids were well behaved and I did not have Ross be involved in the day to day
running a household with kids...I did it all...the kids got older and healthwise were a little better and I
to help out, went back to work and turns out, I loved my job in nursing and then once again, I (not him) balanced a full time job, the house, the kids, etc...and we were doing well and decided to buy a house in Riverside Co. and we moved...
I adored my new house, and once again threw myself into making our new house a home and doing kids by myself (since he now worked 90 miles each way away...) he took to staying with his mom all week and we only saw him on weekends...and this was after my sister died and we took my very young niece and nephew (so now I had a total of 5 kids, 2 of them babies...)
he lost his aerospace job and you must know the outcome of this??? of course we lost our house and car and just about everything else that we owned and not one of the thousands of high paying job interviews ever panned out for him...
I once again did what was expected of me and I took a full time job with Wal Mart as a manager and still did house and kids and work...he could only find part time menial work...
sorry for getting off track and telling too much history...
fate intervened once again after losing our house, which was extremely hard on me, after all I had the American dream with a nice house with the white picket fence and it was taken away about the same time that my niece and nephew were court ordered to their drug addicted father...and I had my first heart attack at the age of 46, which resulted in heart failure and then Wal Mart knew I was a liability and got rid of me...
we lived hand to mouth for a long time while my kids were teenagers (they had to find work themselves to help us out...) and Ross filed for disability thru Veterans...imagine our surprise when the disability came thru??? but, see, all of the years of me doing everything for him and now he also has the government telling him he is disabled, to this very day, I get NO help around the house at all and this is a very sore subject for me and I tend to take it out on people and I don't get mad, I guess it is sort of depression, I just get very quiet...it is like to even make words come out of my mouth, takes too much effort...
most times this house gets to be way too much for me...my kids will help when I ask, but it is still up to me...so since I get help from my kids, what would I do in Whidbey??? will it all be left up to me???
he and I have never ever been by ourselves...EVER...once the kids got big enough to handle themselves, along came the grandkids...and then the kids need different help from us and then the
grandkids need us...and it never ends... since Zoe was born, we seem to always have her with us, even on vacations and I am not saying it was a bad thing...I love that little girl so much and love having her with me, but to be honest it has taken away from his and my relationship...

#3 is the problem of both of the health problems we have...I can handle me, tho the heart failure did take a turn for the worse, I think I have pretty much succeeded in finding a new normal and have
learned to deal on a new level...he on the other hand, I don't think he has...there is just about always something to deal with him on a daily basis...can I handle this on Whidbey by myself???

#4 will we have anything in common once we move up there??? sometimes when we go to a restaurant, we sit there in silence with nothing to talk about...will it be like that all the time up there??? and we never ever do anything...I see on Facebook where people are posting; so and so are at some fantastic place having fun and we are at home...he is usually taking a nap and I am cleaning house...I hate apps for phones, cause it is just showing me that other people are doing things and I am sitting at home...a big day for me is to go to Target and then back to the usual...

#5 I would miss my kids...yes, they could come visit and if I am gone maybe some of the drama from them would cease??? but, they like Zoe are company for me when he is gone for antler duty or taking his nap or whatever...

I guess I am really conflicted on what to do and was sort of happy when the antler committment began as then I had a year of not thinking about Whidbey but, we are down to 9 months or so now and I will have to make a decision pretty soon...if we are really going I need to start down sizing all of our belongings (& we have a lot too)...I just don't know what to do...

one other thing I will miss if we go, is that thru the antler committment, I have made some friends and I do not make friends easily and I will really miss some people...

I guess I wish there were a happy middle ground...here there is drama, and never ending neediness and he and I have practically nothing in the way of talking or whatever...but in Whidbey will it be total quiet with nothing to pass the day??? I just don't know...


news

we got some news the other day and it is taking time to digest...(will share later) and I truly want to be happy, there is just so much yucky stuff blocking the main part...
will be talking a lot to God in the next few weeks, asking for advice on how to properly deal with this
situation...

enough said...for now...

new day

have not blogged for awhile now...been so very super busy...

we have all had our turns at being sick and I am soooooo over the "sicknesses"...first me with the heart failure thing in the hospital, but now at least I know what they do when I get that bad and now have been able to help myself a few times...then, Greg with the blood clot thing and before we could get over that one, then Samantha with her new found heart problems...
and then I get that horrible "bronchitis" thing that spred thru the Lodge...that was a hard one to get over and I don't think I am completely over it quite yet...

after all of this and being so busy with antler stuff, this weekend finally am getting to picking up a little better than I have been doing and it does feel good...washing sheets, and floors and showers, well, you know the drill, right???

Tim took us out the other night to CPK and it is not really my type of restaurant, but he likes it and hey, he was paying...but, I had the best sandwich, I thought about it all night then...it was a chicken salad with cranberries and walnuts on a cheesy panini bread and it was truly delicious...am going to make something along those lines for dinner...I like to add celery and apples also...so we will see...

with Sam home from the hospital, Zoe is home and it is giving me a little break from a 10 year old's mouth...man can that girl talk???

back to work, no rest for the wicked, right???

I give myself goals, "if you do these 3 things, then you can sit for a few minutes." and that seems to work for me since I still do not have all my energy back from being sick...

all I ask for is a little more patience and energy...

later

Monday, April 11, 2011

bowling

going to give you the short story of a long story but, it is such a good story... all the time I have been bowling save for maybe a few months last time I bowled horrible, mostly gutter balls...then Randy (great guy on our team) started giving me pointers and the end of last year I started improving just a wee bit... so, fast forward to this year and we had a great team...was Chris, Tina, Ross (till he got hurt) then Randy took over for him and me...and I started doing a little better and after the Christmas break, I never got under 100 each game (fantastic for me)...fast forward again to sweepstakes night and for some very unknown reason I bowled so so so so good...142, 138 etc. and at the bowling banquet, I won some money... good for me...

???

so I have wanted to post for a long time and there was no time...for so many weeks and really months I cleaned house, wanted it to be perfect for Mar. 26th which was the date for the party that our friend 2 doors up was throwing to celebrate Greg's getting to be Exalted ruler of the Elks here in town...was so afraid that people would want to use our bathroom or whatever and so had to have each and every room spotless...but, that also meant that new curtains had to be made, etc. you know the drill when you are having a tom of people over...turns out that all of the work I did, did look fabulous but, only 3 people came over to our house...3 can you believe it??? but the 3 that did come did like it... one of these days I will go around and take pics of some things that I did and show you... mostly posting tonight to let everyone (does anyone really read this blog?) know that I am still alive since it had been so long between postings... I do have a kidney infection right now and not feeling real good but, I am sure that better days are right around the corner...

Saturday, February 26, 2011

a good macaroni and cheese

had little kids today and it was a little hectic but, I still managed to make Tim a really good dinner...

http://www.kraftrecipes.com/recipes/marys-macaroni-cheese-62578.aspx?cm_mmc=eml-_-rbe-_-20110208-_-1034

this is a fantastic macaroni and cheese...and it just might be my all time new favorite...I want to tweek a few things first...
but, it was so good with little smokies & bbq sauce, green beans and homemade biscuits...Tim was happy to have a home cooked dinner after he had a horrible day interviewing someone who was a big pain...

had a really good moment with Si today and it made my heart happy...

firemen and bowling...

it has taken me this long to really get better enough to leave the house...decided to go bowling only cause I didn't feel like I could leave my friend Tina to bowl by herself...

we did pretty well with bowling (I was over 100 each game) was kidding everyone that maybe I should be sick more often when I bowl...

so, our team was done bowling for the night except for Chris, but we had put our street shoes on, getting ready to leave and the front desk called over the loudspeaker that if anyone knew CPR to come to the desk right away...

2 people from our team and one person from the opposing team all ran up to give aid...it was a young kid (maybe 20-30) and when they got to him, he had no pulse at all and still did not once the paramedics got there about 6 minutes later...we all thought he was gone...but the paramedics shocked him and he came back...we all were amazed...

just had to share a good story...

Thursday, February 17, 2011

the salted pig

am feeling just a tad better from the flu, seeing a light at the end of the tunnel, finally...Tim just got this but, since he really takes care of himself, he always does better than the rest of us...
this is a really nasty, nasty bug...makes me want to sanitize every single thing in sight and to live in a bubble...really!!! i have not been this sick in a really really long time....the wheezing and the bone pain, OH MY...at night your bones ache so bad all you do is take pain meds and walk the floor (there is no lying in bed with this...)

so the littles are in vegas this week and scheduled to come this saturday...will have to see how we are first...do not want them to get this at all...right after Christmas, they had something that sure resembles this and I am sure the other grandma does not want them to be sick again...the baby was so sick he had to have xrays and blood work...was dehydrated...

so Tim took us out to eat tonight at a new place here in Riverside called the Salted Pig...
here is the link to the eatery:

http://www.saltedpigriverside.com/food-drink/

read what I said on my food blog:

http://www.momsdutchoven.blogspot.com/

here;s hoping for a much better tomorrow...

Wednesday, February 16, 2011

coughing...

all the way to Disneyland (ya we went on Sunday) I kept coughing and it was not my usual COPDish type (but I thought it was that) cough...
then, it hit me Sunday night...the flu...and it has hit me hard...the wheezing, fever, chills, bone pain and the coughing... and I could take most of it, but the bone pain is hard to take...every time I cough the pain is terrible...thank goodness Zoe has enough asthma meds to share with me...

did not go bowling on Monday...don't know how they did...

Sunday, February 13, 2011

pin trading


pin trading is a huge deal at the big D...and I read that the anniversary of pin trading actually started this day in 2000...


I have pins, but I buy the ones that I like and do not like to trade those ones that I like...usually every time we go, Tim will buy me a pin and Greg sometimes will also...


Tim brought some really nice ones from Tokyo and I will bet the traders here in Ca. would love to get their hands on those ones...(they won't tho...I will not let them out of my sight...)


this is the new one Tim bought me today....
I am slightly afraid of taking them to Disney...the backs do not stay on real well and Zoe has lost some of hers that way...
Tim is writing his Tokyo story for all to read on: www.micechat.com.............
look under forums and he has gotten fantastic reviews for his writings there...after all he is a reporter, right???

duffy











Duffy is a Disney character in Tokyo and they have been trying to get him here in the states also...Tim says that people go insane in Japan over Duffy...he is a cute brownish bear, usually wearing a sailor suit...so, over in Japan (and not here yet) he has a girlfriend named Shellie May...while they were in Japan, Zoe got the girlfriend and it when figured out cost about 65.00...there is a Duffy store in Calif. Adventure and Tim went today and got Zoe the Duffy that is dressed like Cupid, and it was 20.00...the girl behind the counter, when Tim told her he just got back from Tokyo was telling him that the Japanese tourists buy their fix of Duffy here, as it is much cheaper even with shipping back home...
so I guess you can tell which is which...Shellie May is the one with the skirt on and Duffy is the one dressed like Cupid...the outfits for Shellie May in Tokyo sell for like 38.00 and even the pretty princess decided that was too much to pay for an outfit...Tim said the Duffy store in Tokyo was absolutely packed and things were flying off the shelves...guess money is no object when it comes to Duffy and Shellie May....
check out the close ups of their feet...there iis also the same thing on their bottom...too cute...

red sky



red sky in the morning


sailor take warning


red sky at night


sailor's delight
this was the view from my front porch tonight...

the big D

we decided this morning to go to Disneyland...Tim is having withdrawals from the Tokyo disney...it should have been fair warning just from the line out of the park onto the street ramp to get to the parking attendant...but, we decided to try it anyways...

big mistake...

everything was overly crowded...1 hour wait to get on splash mountain (not that we were going on anyway, we just saw a sign...) we kept trying and it just kept getting worse not better...that is the beauty of having season passes...you don't kick yourself cause you picked the wrong day to go to Disney...so we had lunch and came home...
pretty princess has been well, pretty sick and so she did not go with us but, Tim got her a new Duffy bear to make her feel better...

now, I think I might have gotten what she has, been coughing all day...hopefully I do not get as sick as she is...I can take a little bit of being sick, just not the big one...LOL...

made: http://www.pauladeen.com/recipes/recipe_view/bobbys_goulash/ for dinner: and it was ok not really spectacular...

last night made: http://www.kraftrecipes.com/recipes/easy-layered-chicken-bake-75568.aspx
now this was a big deal and very very good...

night before was this: http://stephaniecooks.blogspot.com/2009/12/crockpot-asian-beef-and-noodles.html and this one, everyone in the family liked, I would change a few things next time tho...

Thursday, February 10, 2011

busy busy busy


I have been very busy lately...don't know how exactly I get it all done...and even when I am done, I look around and see more and more to do...


since Zoe is back, home school has resumed and for the most part, she is being sort of cooperative with me...I am a little frustrated that she has so much to do and with a science project due also...well............




I need a vacation......but, don't see that happening any time too soon....




check out my cooking blog...www.momsdutchoven.blogspot.com...for the month of February I am trying something new...all month I am not making our usual recipes that I make every month...each day I have researched new blogs and recipes and I figures out 28 new recipes...since someone (wink wink) is still not feeling all that well...I just now got to go to the commissary yesterday...and btw...I saved 21.00 in coupons...(which if you do not cut coupons, it is a lot of hard work, but worth every penny...) so far, this year I have saved approx. 50.00 and I am pretty proud of myself...if I can keep it up, there could be a possibility of savings of 300.00 give or take...


so today was day 2 of new recipes and let me tell you, it is a keeper...baked potato soup and french bread...recipe courtesy of pillsbury.com...so so so yummy...cannot wait to see how it tastes as a leftover...I love potato soup...and that is a memory of my mom, she also loved it but always bought the canned stuff...I have been searching for a long time for the perfect recipe and I am sure that I have found it...I like Marie Callendar's just OK but the big pieces of potato kinda bug me and Killarney's has a really good one also but, I really like this one so much better...because of the mashed baked potatoes, there are no really chunks but, you cannot miss the potato taste...OMGoodness...tim also liked it, am waiting to see if sam does also...
so, day one was this recipe from the food blog of http://www.valsocal.blogspot.com/ and it is for chicken carbona...this was another OMGoodness recipe that I will surely be trying again...in researching recipes for years I would see a recipe for carbona and would pass on it, thinking of the egg yolks...but since this is the month of new recipes and also since I now love pasta and white sauces, decided to give it a try...very very good...
2 for 2...I now have added 2 new recipes to my collection...
got a good one for tomorrow also...
on Saturday, before Zozo got home from Japan, I had the littles for the day and had to post a picture of how big they are getting...

Friday, February 4, 2011

fire department at my house...






















so, you kind of get a funny feeling that your day will not be going all that well, when first thing in the morning, before you can even get dressed, you have to call the paramedics to your house...

and Greg and I had even discussed his insulin issues and not eating correctly just the previous night...
we still had a problem...guess he did not take into consideration how he has not been eating all that well since he got sick and he did not adjust his insulin...

he spent the day in emergency, but now is home and all right...

maybe now he will listen to me...yeah right...

my day still had to go on...I made a german chocolate cake and 24 cupcakes for the birthday dinners at Elks...guess my baking is appreciated as there was none to bring home...then Greg, feeling slightly better & I went out to eat at Coco's for a late dinner...I was starved and inhaled my club sandwich...
been skyping with Zoe and Tim in Japan and I will write a whole post dedicated to them soon...very interesting...Zoe is in love with Japan as much as Tim is and Tokyo Disney will never be the same...guess all the characters and even a lot of the Japanese people love little American girls with freckles...she has never seen so many characters at our Disney as she is seeing there...

little Japanese kids want their picture taken with the little American...too cute.while they have been gone, have been super cleaning my house...changed a lot of things around...got 2 new bookcases and Chris put them together for me and I already have them full of stuff...

Sunday, January 30, 2011

do you see what I see???




yes, you are seeing correctly...we have Girl Scout Cookies...




we have 7 cases of cookies to sell...we only got the cookies last night and I took the princess out and she sold like 15 boxes so far and she is so proud of herself...15 down and 85 to go??? hope when she gets home from Tokyo she is still pumped about selling cookies...should have sent some to Tokyo...
by the way...it is way too dangerous to have this many cookies left in my house...my favorites???
the peanut butter patties, and the carmel delights...
Tim said that every year in the desert they have cooking contests but, the recipe has to include girl scout cookies...I am going to look into this and see if they are doing it this year...

silence is golden???

tonight I am by myself...I do not really like to be by myself at night time...I am a scaredy cat but, at least I have our guard dog Gracie (really? a cocker spaniel) with me...and Sam is right behind us...so, I will sleep with the phone next to me and Gracie beside me...

have been cleaning the house and putting Christmas stuff away (still)...so, I have been busy...if I get thru tonight I will be OK...

made myself creamed chipped beef for dinner...

miss the princess and Tim a lot but, as of right now, they still have 6 hours left on their flight...

thank you God...

leavin on a jet plane...




now the time has come to leave you, one more time let me kiss you, close your eyes, I'll be on my way........................




that describes this morning...oh, and lots of tears (happy tears) but, nonetheless tears of I will miss you...




got up at 7...they wanted to be on the road by 8 to get to LAX by 8:30 or so...Greg will be staying with his mom who lives near the airport...
Tim called and said that when they went thru security, all of a sudden the TSA people when Zoe was going thru the metal detector, started saying, "code blue. code blue, everyone stand down and move away from the table." Tim was a little nervous, he thought that maybe the copper coil that was placed in Zoe's heart to patch the hole made the detector go off but, it was a guy across the table that had something he shouldn't have had...
plane took off at 11;33 and will get to Tokyo at 4"30 their time...
American Airlines is sending me frequent email updates which makes me feel good...they called just as they were boarding and Zoe was hyper...I thought she would be nervous...
went with Sam to get her hair cut...it is pouring here today but, we have umbrellas...then to lunch at Killarneys...had grilled cheese and potato soup and onion rings...
when I talked to Zoe she said, "oh, Grandma. I did not know the airport would be so nice...they have Starbucks and everything here..."

Saturday, January 29, 2011

tokyo


much of today was spent getting Zoe all ready for her trip tomorrow to Tokyo...I had planned on just cutting her bangs but, wanted her to have a special treat and so took her out to lunch and then for a hair cut at Super Cuts...I thought for sure she would only want a trim but once we got there, she looked at a book of hair cuts, picked one out and here is the result...

I really do like it and seeing her is cute...she kept looking in the store windows to check herself out...when I was helping at her school the other day, all of the girls have their hair the same way and now she is a little different...

while she was getting her hair cut, the girl was talking to her about school, etc. and Zoe said that she was going to Tokyo tomorrow and the girl stopped and said, "hey wait a minute, was your uncle in here this morning??? I cut his hair also..."

had lunch at Subway, Zoe's new favorite...she gets pepperoni, with provolone and parmesan, toasted...

Friday, January 28, 2011

2 of my best friends

on Sunday, 2 of my most favorite people in the world are leaving for japan...I am not jealous, I could have gone, I was invited...but, nonetheless they are leaving and what a trip of a lifetime???

I will miss them terribly...

today I wanted to spoil them and what do I do to spoil people??? I cook...

so, today I made in time for Tim to get home from work,

chicken and wild rice soup, homemade rolls and blondies...

one thing that is holding me together thru tough times, is cooking for the ones I love and then of course blogging about it...I will have noone to do that for while they are gone...someone else (you know who I am talking about) doesn't seem to appreciate me right now at all right now...food comes back untouched...

so, we will see...

8 whole days will be lonely...

that "old" lady

OMGoodness, I am becoming one of those "old" ladies...you know those ones...the ones that go out to eat and they are by themselves??? I became one of them today...
was hungry for a Carl's Jr. bacon biscuit and someone went back to bed after taking pretty pretty princess to school...so, I went by myself...and really it was OK...I am just used to someone always being there and talking so, it was very quiet...but I managed it all right...I missed pretty pretty princess a lot so it was a little lonely...

the following is from an email that my husband received from one of his friends that always passes on "those" emails but, parts of this one ring so true...

As I've aged, I've become kinder to myself, and less critical of myself.
I've become my own friend.
I don't chide myself for eating that extra cookie, or for not making my bed, or for buying that silly cement gecko that I didn't need, but looks so avante garde on my patio.
I am entitled to a treat, to be messy, to be extravagant.
I have seen too many dear friends leave this world too soon; before they understood the great freedom that comes with aging.
Whose business is it if I choose to read or play on the computer until 4 AM and sleep until noon? I will dance with myself to those wonderful tunes of the 60 &70's, and if I, at the same time, wish to weep over a lost love ..... I will.
I know I am sometimes forgetful. But there again, some of life is just as well forgotten. And I eventually remember the important things.
Sure, over the years my heart has been broken. How can your heart not break when you lose a loved one, or when a child suffers, or even when somebody's beloved pet gets hit by a car? But broken hearts are what give us strength and understanding and compassion. A heart never broken is pristine and sterile and will never know the joy of being imperfect.
I am so blessed to have lived long enough to have my hair turning gray, and to have my youthful laughs be forever etched into deep grooves on my face.
So many have never laughed, and so many have died before their hair could turn silver.
As you get older, it is easier to be positive. You care less about what other people think. I don't question myself anymore. I've even earned the right to be wrong.
I am not going to live forever, but while I am still here, I will not waste time lamenting what could have been, or worrying about what will be.
And I shall eat dessert every single day (if I feel like it).

is this right on??? I loved it the minute that I read it and it sums me up in so many ways...
when I was younger and especially in high school, I cared soooo much what people thought of me...now, I absolutely do not care at all what people think...if I go out without washing my hair or whatever...

Thursday, January 27, 2011

what can I say???

well, today (Wednesday) I am kind of proud of myself...got almost all of Christmas down and packed up...now, just need someone to go into the cellar for me...(that is where I store all my holiday decorations...
so, that took me most of the day after we dropped pretty pretty princess off at school...

Sam is sick today, has the flu, and so, I went and did bingo at Elk's for her...it is not bad...I cashiered for the food section of bingo...long night tho, got there at 4:30 and did not leave till 9pm...

night...

thanks God, more patience please...

Tuesday, January 25, 2011

new day???

trying hard to start anew...to put one foot in front of the other...do what I am supposed to do...
a little hard but, still trying...

fairly busy today with home schooling (multiplication) and cleaning the frig...those were the major jobs of today...

made mini bbq meat loaves, corn casserole (very yummy) and rice a roni for dinner...

thank you for freedom

can I just say I love my scooter??? it affords me a certain level of freedom that I did not have before...I can be independent...I do not have to rely on anyone for anything...

this morning at 8:30, I felt like a Carl's Jr. bacon biscuit and so off I went by myself...and today I was smiling...god showed me squirrels and baby birds and for the first time in a long time, I was smiling...

I am going to try and be good, and make my life better and not let things bog me down...

freedom is a wonderful thing...

if not for my scooter, my knees and heart would not let me walk far at all...

thank you God...

Sunday, January 23, 2011

dickens

Tim and I went to the Dicken's Festival today and we had a really good time...even before Tim ever started working for the Press, I have loved reading a certain column, written by a guy named Dan Berstein...he writes down to earth, genuine articles, and I like them...so, after Tim started working there, he had told me that he had met Dan and I was impressed...so cut to today and Dan was going to be playing trombone at the festival...we went, we listened, I was further impressed, and Tim introduced me to Dan...we shook hands and I will never wash my hands again...(kidding...LOL)...
had lunch at Farmer Boy's afterwards and it was nice to get out for a little while away from drama and neediness...

wanted to mention that last Friday night I made (with Tim and Sam's help) dinner for 45 people at the Friday night dinners at Elks...we made chicken pot pie, cole slaw, muffins and sweet potato cake...
I am told that it went over really well and there were no complaints...that made me feel good...

Sunday, January 16, 2011

lucky charm's first bath...


the gardener that found Lucky came to see how he was doing...I told him that he was doing great...and he told me the story of finding him and it was kinda sad...he said he went home and told his wife about Lucky and how he was so happy that he had found him a good home...he said his wife was proud of him...I told him, "you know don't you that I did not need a dog right now, there is just too much going on here, but that Lucky seemed to be "God given..." I didn't need (per se) a dog, but he has really made us happy as a family and he really needed a good home...the gardener said that it was just so weird that he had found him, come over to our neighbor to mow her grass and then was going to take Lucky to the pound...and he happened to find a cocker loving crazy woman...Feb. 1st am going to take him for his shots, etc...
btw...just so everyone knows, we did try for 2 weeks to find original owner and then gave up...he was and still is in kinda sorry shape and surely should of been taken much better care of than how he was...now if only our 3 year old cocker Gracie would take to him all would be all right, well other than when pretty pretty princess was sick and Lucky would not leave her alone...he cries at their door when Zoe comes over to my house...so cute...

sunday night...

so here we are to the end of the weekend...Zoe is with her dad, and then he called and asked if he could have her an extra day, since tomorrow is MLK day...I really miss her and wanted her home, but I am no the parent, right???

friday, Greg went um-somewhere and still isn't home yet, maybe tomorrow...it has been fairly quiet here for 3 days mostly just Tim and me...

made a new recipe, bow tie pasta mac and cheese and the recipe is definitely a keeper, there are a few things I might tweak but otherwise it was pretty good...

I am pretty stir crazy being in this house since a week ago this past saturday altho Sam and I did go out to breakfast this morning...

going to bed early and praying very hard for more patience....
not going bowling again tomorrow...once I get to go back, will have forgotten how to bowl...

Wednesday, January 12, 2011

long day...

today was an exceptionally long and hard day...don't think I sat down much at all...and that in itself is a little difficult with having a few heart issues, my knee is shot and I have the UTI pain in my side that is killing me...having said that, however, those issues do not keep me down...

Zoe had school this morning, so got her there and Greg is still sick with the flu and went back to bed...I am going a little stir crazy, been in the house a little too long...so, went on my scooter, really wanted a Carl's Jr bacon biscuit so much that by the time I got up there my mouth was watering...should have known something would be up...Carl's Jr. was closed...yeah they were closed due to a power outage...
so, I went to Ralph's and got a few things for dinner and then went to Goodwill...there was not too much there, only got a few Christmas items...
came home, cleaned house, did laundry, put Zoe's clothes away and then it was time to start dinner...I like dinner done by 4:30 for when Tim gets home from work...so for a really big dinner like I was making for tonight I need to start around 12-1pm...
so, first I made chocolate chip cookies and they came out really good...
then I put the baked potatoes in the oven for the cheddar/bacon twice baked potatoes...made
bisquick oven fried chicken, baby veggies, and cranberry/orange muffins...dinner took awhile to prepare...
Zoe and I walked with Sam to Elks and then Zozo and I went to Ralph's once again and got Tim his vitamin water and the princess some new nail polish...
worked for 45 minutes on math on the computer with her...
I am tired and ready for bed...

please God I really need some patience bad.........................................................................................

Tuesday, January 11, 2011

helicopters and puppies

what???

tonight was so funny...should have had the video camera going...Zozo got a remote control helicopter for Christmas but, it is the big kids (wink wink) that really love playing with it...Tim was playing with it last night when Sam came in with the new puppy...it was hilarious...Gracie (my 3 yr old cocker) and Lucky were either chasing the copter or being scared of it...Gracie is still not sure of Lucky and here I thought Gracie would like to have someone to play with...right now, think Lucky just annoys Gracie...Tim is not really a dog person so, you know who both of the dogs like, don't you??? I tease Tim that when either dad or me dies, he will get Gracie and his response was, "you had better find a nursing home now that takes dogs..." oh the humor of a journalist...LOL...
the other funny thing about the helicopter...at one point it had landed in Zozo's hair and really scared her...when the dog thing was going on, Zoe was laughing so hard that she had to then go to the bathroom...without Tim making the copter do anything at all, it followed Zoe into the bathroom and all we heard was screaming...so funny but, maybe you had to be there???

tonight made porcupines, parmesan noodles and green beans for dinner...last night was meatball soup and homemade bread..
anyone need any leftovers??? my frig is overflowing with leftovers...good thing Tim does not mind...

something funny Zoe said today...we were talking about New Year's resolutions and what hers were...she said, "my revolutions were..............." and the way she said it was so funny...

little princess has school tomorrow and she is excited to see her friends...

Greg is still sick with the flu...we did not even go bowling last night...they won 3 of the games...

Sunday, January 9, 2011

meet lucky charms...


anyone that knows me, knows that my heart actually melts when I just see a cocker spaniel...I have a cocker spaniel named gracie...I got her almost 4 years ago and paid a lot of money for her...even tho, she did not come with papers...we love her nonetheless...gracie is a good dog and minds pretty well...if you say, "do you want a bath?" she will run for her bed...LOL...


so anyway Greg walked outside on new year's eve and saw the gardeners across the street and a small dog jumped out..to make a long story short, it was a cocker spaniel puppy...turns out the gardeners had found him running down a very busy street...they were going to take him to the

animal shelter...


disclaimer...I do not need a puppy at this time of my life at all...


how could I turn away this cute little face???


btw...we spent a week trying to find owners to no avail so, he is ours...


meet Lucky Charms...

business cards and squirrels







what????






2 of only a handful of things right now in my life (the others are the grand kids) that every single time I see them I cannot help it, I smile...what is it about squirrels??? have no idea...they just make me smile...and this neighborhood of ours, has tons and tons of squirrels...once when I walked to the corner, I counted 15 of them...they are everywhere...too cute...and the babies, OMGosh...
the business card??? how can I not smile??? am so proud of my son, that it makes me feel happy...
btw...my daughter I am proud of also...she redid all of my blogs with great backgrounds...

better days???

well, it seems that pretty pretty princess is mostly over her bout with the flu...altho, she still is not 100%..if she still seems yucky tomorrow, will see if the doctor can see her...also would like her checked out and get a flu shot before she heads out to japan at the end of the month...

on Friday, Greg had to help cook meat loaf at Elk's but I had chicken out so, I went ahead and made dinner anyway...made homemade chicken pot pie...which is one of Tim's favorites...and then I went up to Elks just to kind of hang out...starting to really like some of the people there and it is nice to have adults to talk to...Greg started feeling bad, so we came home early...

Saturday I had to watch princess while Sam was doing a job interview and Zoe was really well behaved...we went to shopping center to get new colored pencils (her addiction) and had breakfast at Carl's Jr....she did not eat as she said she still was not feeling too well...later that eve. Greg and I went to a birthday party for our next door neighbor at her mom's house...really nice house and a terrific party...they sure know how to party...had a dj and everything...her dad makes the best wild rice, pecan, and cranberry salad...desperately want the recipe...came home early as Greg was not feeling good...

Wednesday, January 5, 2011

2 kinds of flu...

today,woke up to the pretty princess sick...she has the flu that noone likes to talk about, and I surely don't want to get from her...she was sick all day while mom was at work and today is mom's very long day, not supposed to get home till like 8 tonight...she called in sick at 12 to the 2 other jobs...thank you...
and then, Tim also has the flu, but the coughing felling yucky kind...he feels horrible...but, still working...poor him...

went to Elk's for dinner last night and took macaroni salad and lemon cupcakes that I had made and of course everything went over really well...got tons of compliments on both...
am trying different cupcakes every week to get an idea of what to make for Greg's inaguration party at the Elk's when he gets to be ER...
so the lemon ones from last night are a go, so are my sweet potato ones, and also the red velvet ones I made last week...
3 down, but I would like to offer maybe 8-10 different ones...we will see...

here's hoping that I do not get sick from someone here...

made chicken fried rice & handmade egg rolls for dinner...a lot of work for both dishes....but, everyone was pleased with dinner...who knows, might be the last dinner we have for awhile if we get what the princess has...LOL...

Monday, January 3, 2011

migraines & passports

so, today I woke up with a really really bad migraine...the kind that you know you will mever get rid of no matter how hard you try...hate these kind of days cause I know I will not get too much done...

spent most of the morning getting everything together to get Zozo's passport...took a little while finding everything we needed...cost $200 to get document also...now just hope it gets here in time...did I forget to mention Zozo and Tim are going to Japan at the end of the month??? they are both really looking forward to the trip and are constantly planning what they will be doing while there...they are booked to stay at the hotel at Tokyo Disney...

so, even tho did not feel good still made a good dinner...corn chowder and homemade garlic & cheese biscuits...

tonight is the first night of bowling after the 2 week break...feel too bad to go and I was looking forward to going too...

something to smile about today??? watching Tim and Zozo play dance party on the Wi...

can't wait to go to bed tonight...

thank you God for today...more patience please...

Sunday, January 2, 2011

Christmas 2010

so, with the grand kids getting bigger, there are not too many years left where I can make them matching outfits...so, this year bought the girl's plain white dresses from dharma trading and also got the tye dye there also...Sam and I tye dyed them and I think they came out perfectly...I hand painted snowmen and snowflakes...just happened to find on line a company that sells any color of striped tights and they matched perfectly...Cj's jeans say, "let it snow..." can you guess who Santa is??? it didn't take OUR kids that long to figure it out...




















january menus

1 tacos, refried beans
2 bbq hamburgers, cole slaw, beans
3 spaghetti, salad, garlic bread
4 fondue, veggies, french bread, smokies
5 lasagna, bread, veggies
6 chicken soup, biscuits
7 meatball soup, bread
9 chicken pot pie
10 shake n bake chicken parts, rice a roni, veggies
11 taco cass., corn bread
12 twice baked potatoes with ham, veggies
13 sloppy joes, tator tots, corn
14 beef stew, bread
15 meat loaf,(the bisquick one) scalloped potatoes, veggie
16 chili with all the fixings
17 round steak onions, hash browns, veggie
18 porcupines, parmesan noodles, corn, biscuits
19 swedish meatballs, noodles, veggie
20 swiss steak, mashed potatoes, veggie
21 grilled cheese sandwiches, veggies, chips
22 impossible pies (corn/bacon, and cheeseburger) NEW RECIPE
23 roasted chicken, hobo potatoes, corn on cob, garlic bread
24 tri tip for pot roast with veggies
25 honey mustard chicken (like a stew with apples, potatoes, etc,) NEW RECIPE
26 bisquick chicken, rice, veggie
27 salsbury steak, mashed pots, veggie
28 corn chowder, garlic bread, apples
29 make our own pizzas, bread sticks, asst. cut up veggies
30 hamburger, rice, gravy with almonds and chow mein noodles
31 chicken fried rice, egg rolls,
1 macaroni and cheese, the new recipe with bow tie pasta NEW RECIPE
2 chicken almandine, veggies, bread NEW RECIPE

yes there is a date missing between the 7th and 9th...I leave one date open to go out or whatever...

sounds yummy, right???

commissary

grocery shopping took most of my morning...$375.00 (but coupons I cut got us down to $340.00)...pretty proud of myself...sure helps to make menus and grocery lists and of course the coupons...

Zozo went with us (don't ask me why she loves the commissary so much, maybe it's the pizza at Sam's she loves on the way home...) she was pretty good too, didn't ask for too much...trying to get her to eat a lot more healthy this new year and everything she got was health orientated...

we were out of a ton of basics also...which always adds up...ya know like bisquick, etc...

be nice to make dinner tonight and know for sure I have all the ingredients...

thinking tacos for dinner...

Saturday, January 1, 2011

marie callendar & borders

after the littles went home, I was very tired...Greg, Tim and me went out to Marie's for dinner and I got turkey dinner, really good...
then we went to Borders where I had gotten a 50% off coupon...got a new cupcake book, another cookbook and a book for Zozo...

came home and put a fire in the fireplace...

an end to a good night...

like saying the date today....1-1-11...LOL...

new year's day & happy birthday


day one of my new resolutions...not that I really believe in resolutions and all that but, this year I am really really going to give this a try...

what did I plan for my "goals" this year???
1. diet...I would really like to lose 20-25 pounds before the inauguration in April...
2. blog more, so that when I am really old and decrepit I will have a journal of sorts to remember my terrific life...
3. a ton more patience with the grand kids...
4. church
5. to watch money more like coupons etc...I already (the day after Christmas I planned the menus for Jan. made the grocery list and cut over 25.00 of coupons out...I really was pleased with myself that is until Greg said I spend too much time on the computer...he did apologize later...

so, last night being New Year's Eve, we usually never ever go anywhere...but, we were actually invited to a party at the Troxel's...we went and did have a good time...a couple of other people were also there...it felt weird going somewhere by ourselves and having a good time...food was good and Beth made me a mud slide...now, if I did drink, that would be my drink of choice...

today is Cj's 3rd birthday and I wanted to take the kids out for pizza but, Zoe is not here this weekend and the littles have been pretty sick...it is so cold here that I decided to wait a couple of weeks to take them...made them a good (appetizers) lunch and he loved his power wheels car that Tim and Greg and I went in together and got him...looks cute...will try to get a pic before he takes it home...