I simply love to see dads out with their kids...usually every night (hey at least we try) Zoe and I like to take walks after dinner...we'll walk to 7-11, or Rite Aid for ice cream or just around our neighborhoods...I like to see other gardens and then steal those ideas for my own...lol...
so, back to topic...we almost always run into people also out walking and usually there is this one guy who walks with his baby girl in a stroller...nice guy, always speaks and the baby is cute...I love that...don't know if I am seeing it more and more or what??? when my own kids were little, I didn't see it so much...think that was more of the times that the dads worked hard so the moms could stay home with the kids and the dads were tired when they came home...hey, we did good financially when Greg worked all of the overtime that he did but, looking back now, did we sacrifice money for time spent with the kids??? Greg did try, don't get me wrong...he was the coach for several of their baseball and soccer teams (but none of my kids are sports enthused) and he went to their school functions and took the boys to scouts...I can also remember when we lived in Hawthorne, going for walks around the high school track field and taking field trips to museums and beaches but, it was always at my urgings...we were together as a family...every Friday night, especially when I went back to work at Centinela Hospital (best job ever...) we went to the Redondo Bch Galleria and ate and shopped, and we enjoyed that time...when the kids were off of school, Greg would take a day off and we would field trip to museums and take a picnic lunch...(the menu was always the same, never changed...egg salad sandwiches, bbq chips, apples and pecan sandies...)
I also found this book (don't remember the name) but it was about doing things with your kids in LA...we took advantage of the book and even after I was working, would pack picnics and take the kids to all kinds of parks and beaches...my favorite was a beach in San Pedro (I think) up on a cliff...since I had worked that day, the night before I had cooked and packed and all was ready when we got home...the one time we had teriakyi beef strips, macaroni salad, veggies and dessert and we had invited Greg's mom to go with us...we bbg'd and had a blast watching the sunset from the beach...so we did have good times and good memories, right???
my question is, should I have pushed more for one on one time with each of them with their dad??? I realize looking back now, I can't change what happened, but would the dynamics of this family have been different if he had stepped up more??? and Greg, if you read this, I am not saying anything bad about you...I absolutely know that you did the very best that you could have...we all do...we don't set out to do things (especially important ones like raising kids) wrong, do we???
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